General McChrystal and BP CEO Tony Hayward Forgot They Were Negotiating

Do you consider good negotiation skills to be important? If you don’t, you should. Do you realize that you’re always negotiating? Anytime you exchange information that gives insight into the way you think and/or the position you hold pertaining to situations, in reality you ‘are’ negotiating. General Stanley McChrystal, British Petroleum (BP) CEO Tony Hayward, and BP’s Chairman Carl-Henric Svanberg all forgot this valuable insight, and they paid the price for their forgetfulness.

You might not consider yourself as negotiating during a ‘normal exchange of information’, but the exchange of such information gives insight into your character and highlights your beliefs on stances that you’ve adopted, or might adopt on certain positions.

Consider statements recently made by McChrystal, Hayward, and Svanberg. You would think people with their level of experience and position would know, you’re always negotiating. Thus, McChrystal should have known better than to trust comments he made to a reporter, in thinking those comments would not be printed or find its way to ‘other’ outlets. Hayward should have thought about the ramifications of saying, “I want my life back”, after the accident caused by BP disrupted the lives of so many people in the United States. Svanberg should have given thought to how his statement of, “the little people” would cast him and BP as elitist, detached from those of less fortunes and the doubts people would have about BP being genuinely concerned about the oil spill. Even if you harbor such thoughts, you keep such views to yourself. Through your words and actions, you’re always negotiating.

In McChrystal’s case, since the Rolling Stone article in which he made his disparaging remarks has not “hit the stands”, a lot of the backlash that he experienced came about as the result of the perception his remarks cast. Those remarks painted a perception of him being a soldier that was ‘out of touch’ with the administration to which he serves.

From a negotiation perspective, there are times when it’s appropriate to allow people to draw their own conclusions from what you’ve said, without correcting them. In so doing, you still have to manage their perception of your thoughts, actions, and words. Once those thoughts transition into a negative sphere, in which they become detrimental to your position, it behooves you to correct their perception.

Even worse, when speaking, since people can ‘hear faster’ than one speaks, people will ‘grab’ sound bites. Thus, if you say something provocative, or something that is truly out of character with what’s considered the norm, you open yourself to possible retribution.

One thing that everyone should keep in mind is the fact that the more status you possess, the more media savvy you must become. In addition, one should remember that status is perceptional and thus one should always mind one’s tongue. One errant word can destroy a career, a future, a life. Therefore, as you go throughout your daily activities, remember, you’re always negotiating… and everything will be right with the world.

The Negotiation Tips Are…

· When negotiating, your spoken words express your attitudes. Watch the actions to which your words commit, in order to be framed in the most positive light.

· Like alarm clocks kill dreams, a lack of negotiation skills kill future opportunities. Be aware of the impact your words have on others. Become a better negotiator.

· If you use words appropriately during a negotiation, you won’t have to settle for what you get, you can get what you want.

Tribal Jewelry – Why Individuals Wear It

Several Tribes dress in Wooden Jewelry and also Gemstone Pieces of jewelry and it is not just about looking good, it really is about the actual symbolism and is often connected with health and success plus reputation. Our health plus wellness are really much about the physical along with the emotional, a lot of cultures have noted this link between psychological wellbeing and also physical wellbeing for a long time.

In Indian treatment, Ayurveda, a doctor treats the patient dependent on what type of person they are related to one of the five components of Land, Water Fire Air as well as Ether. As a result, body, mind, and spirit/consciousness need to be attended to both individually and also in unison for health to ensue. While associated mainly with Indian medication lots of other civilizations now have identical values as well as practices. Most tribes wear their Tribal Jewellery in order to identify themselves, to show position plus to preserve divine well-being.

Would this hokum work, well I watched a recent tv show which took three topics and also put them on a course on Ayurveda treatment/medicine, I am certainly not entering into fine detail here, but Yes it worked and almost all experienced the pros, particularly the subject who had been stressed out as well as depressed.

To ensure our wellbeing we must feel and look good about ourselves and just about everyone has actually been informed of this for such a long time now indeed many of us will agree to the premise that when we feel great and also look good we have a confident shine of pleasure plus wellness.

Currently, at moment, you will find a massive spike in firms offering to buy your jewelry in order to melt it down plus provide you with some cash. I am not getting into the argument about the value of the cash offered in return for your jewelry however unless individual circumstance really calls for this I would suggest you can get far more benefit from putting the jewelry on and giving your spirits an enhancement by looking and feeling fantastic.

Traditionally trendsetting…from jhumkas and chandbalis to intricately handcrafted one-of-a-kind designs, we have you covered for accessorizing all your traditional wear for weddings, festivals and special occasions. You’ll find gold-plated or plain silver earrings studded with pearls, Swarovski crystals, stones or glass in elaborate traditional motifs here. From peacock and flowers to crescent, fish and god motifs, each of these earrings has something traditionally special that will speak to you. Tribal Jewellery.

In an advertisement on TV, we see superstar celebrity and Model Charlize Theron stripping off as she walks away, now they are not promoting stripping or jewelry, however they are attempting to show Ms. Theron as being comfortable happy, and also sparkling, and they, for the most part, do, however, to help make this happen Ms. Theron still wears her Jewellery, why because it is obvious it will help her to feel happy and look great, despite the trouble of being nude in front of the cameras and numerous people required to create the advertisement.

For a bold and dramatic statement, go for Tribe earrings that are inspired by the rich tribal heritage of our country. In fact, tribal-inspired earrings is one accessory that is evergreen and versatile in its appeal. One can match it with Indian or western wear and even style it casually or even with festive attire. The distinct quality of tribal earrings from Tribe is that every single piece is intricately handcrafted and has unmatched detailing in its motifs. Indeed a jewellery box must have! Traditional Rings.

Most of us have noticed the expensive garments superstars put on on the red carpet as they try to impress and self promote to help land the next big role but have you noticed how they all have on their jewelry even in some cases where it is fairly simple and also sophisticated beaded jewelry or wooden jewelry rather than huge and overpowering diamonds.

All the top screen goddesses have been noticed in highly provocative poses on as well as off-screen yet few if any are seen without their gemstones. Who can neglect Marilyn Munroe informing us all in the most provocative style that Diamonds undoubtedly are a Girl’s best friend, probably it should have been Jewellery, beaded jewelry, wooden jewelry, gemstone jewelry just about all certainly are a Girl’s companion?

My contention is that celebrity or not, being provocative or not, we all need our jewelry to feel clothed to look our best as well as to radiate that ambiance that tells the world all of us are delighted and also feeling great, thus potentially in these modern days, our own symbolism is the fact that our Tribal Jewellery affirms I really feel and look very good at this point.

Presentations That Sell – Seven Fatal Flaws and How to Fix Them – Part 6

Most business presentations are intended to persuade, inform, motivate or entertain. Some are meant strictly to sell — which means they must persuade, inform, motivate and yes, entertain.

No matter what your purpose is, if you want your audience to sit up and take notice, you’ll need to stop reading a script from from the screen. The reason is simple:reading interferes with the listeners’ ability to connect with you. And it’s that connection that allows you to persuade, inform, motivate and entertain.

If you want your audience to hear what you have to say, they need to focus on you — and that means you must avoid the 6th fatal flaw.

You read your script from the screen.

True, your eleven year old nephew may be a wizard at playing a computer game while listening to rap and doing his homework, but few adults are capable of that sort of cognitive multi-tasking. Our adult brains are selective — paying attention to only one cognitive task at a time. We have learned to focus on a single “thinking track” and tune out everything else.

As soon as you start reading, I stop listening. In fact, I start reading too. But when you read aloud, you read more slowly than I do as I read to myself. I begin to get irritated with the dissonance. My irritation often escalates to annoyance, at which point, I may start looking for mistakes in the text — to prove to myself that my annoyance is well-founded.

If I am a detail person, I may identify lack of parallelism in the lists you have on screen, or find grammatical errors, or points you have missed or muddled. I begin to ask questions that throw you off your flow. I shuffle in my seat and start writing my shopping list.

And that’s not all. The instant you start reading, you stop looking at me. If I look at you, I receive nothing in return and I lose that nice human connection I was hoping to find with you.

Like all potential buyers, I know you are not the only vendor in the marketplace. And when all is said and done, I am looking for a “friend in the business” which means I need to feel a connection with you to find you likeable. If you and I can’t make eye contact, either because your eyes are focused elsewhere or because I am now deeply engrossed in editing your written work, I may begin to feel that I am trapped in an airless room listening to a robot read.

Presentation is a performance. That doesn’t mean you are pretending or deceiving or feigning interest. It does mean you are playing a role –the role of friendly, trustworthy advisor. And it’s your job to keep my attention. It’s your job to be likable — because people buy from people they like.

When you insist on reading endless screens of dense and deadly text, I lose interest. I don’t like you and you lose. When your screen highlights a keyword or two, or when it enhances your performance with a clever or creative touch, I am free to focus on you — so I am persuaded, informed, motivated or entertained.

P.S. In the next article, find out more about the fatal flaws you must avoid and profit from it.